Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Two days left in Budapest

Well, our Hungarian adventure is almost over and our American adventure will shortly begin. What an adventure it has been!! While there are many things on this trip we have certainly enjoyed, there has also been many things not so enjoyable.

Mom and Dad McManus left this morning and for only 10 days here they sure got a taste of Budapest. Last week we took the subway to the Parliament. After coming out of the station, Thelma realized that their camera was gone! She remembers that someone behind here on the escalator was too close. He stole her camera! So they bought another one about 4 days ago. Well, I'll let Thema tell the rest of this story as she tells it so well.

"Interesting story....as we were going out for pizza, we were kind of smashed into a trolley train car. As we were exiting, Kristin had all six kids in hand and I was following up behind them. Tom and Ron were getting off the other exit. I noticed Kristin and kids moving up ahead....but where was T & R? I looked into the window and saw a commotion. It looked like Tom and Ron were wrestling with a man or two. Then I were grunting and something like...."He's got my camera...my camera.... and then more shoving and pushing and Tom holding the door open and Ron shoving and pushing...in fact there was so much shoving and pushing going on...I thought..."Oh no, not the camera we just bought!" Then I thought...I've got to get on quickly and help fight...then I saw Tom and Ron jump off the train....all the while the kids are safe with Kristin walking to Pizza Hut. I saw Tom and Ron were O.K. but did he have the camera? Yes, he did....after the two men (R&T) wrestled for it. A man had his hand in the camera case on Ron's belt under a shirt outside of his pants....the young man had the camera...then the action started... YAHOO...we have a camera. After the 1st one being taken, I think that Ron thought "NO WAY...IS ANOTHER CAMERA BEING STOLEN!" However, Ron was willing to step down and let it go if it got very ugly. Actually Tom went back on the train after exiting and held the man's hands while Ron tried to grab the camera...but then Ron had grabbed the guys hands too......This adventure is truly an adventure. The camera was eventually picked up off the floor and they exited as the doors slammed shut. Donna Steenbarger warned us to hold on to our stuff and she was right.When we told Kristin, she felt bad because she missed getting into the foray."

Also, please continue to pray for Gage. This past Saturday, Ron and Thelma took the six kids for a couple hours to give Kristin and I a break. They were out walking in a park and Gage must have turned his head funny and he is in a lot of pain. Gage bent over and started to moan. We got him into the tub to relax his muscles, as well as ice and heat. He was in a lot of pain. He is not doing much better and will be okay. He is very sore in the neck and can hardly turn his head.

Kristin and I just got back from the US Embassy and everything went well. The children will have dual citizenship. This afternoon we will receive the visa's and get back the passports. We will pack tomorrow and fly Thursday. The 3 newest members can't wait to go to America!

God Bless and again thank you for your prayers.
Tom, Kristin and Family

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Nemeth Family Open House May 23rd

Come And Meet The Newest Additions
We will be having an Open House to celebrate our three newest members- Monika Grace, Kira Alexandra, and Drew Laszlo. We are so thankful that God has chosen these three precious children to be part of our family!! Please join us at our house anytime between 1:00 pm and 5:00 pm on Saturday, May 23rd. 1651 Old Thicket Court, Greenwood, IN 46143
Phone: 317-887-2931

Saturday, May 2, 2009

It's official, the children are ours!!

Hi everyone,
Well, we are in our last week here!! We can't wait to get home. We miss family and friends, normalcy, our home, etc. (oh, the kids said our dog Lilly also). This past week we went to get visa photos and ordered passports for the kids. They also had a doctor's visit per the US assembly's requirement. Most importantly, we signed the paperwork making Monika Grace, Kira Alexandra, and Drew Laci Official Nemeth's!!! We are so excited! They are doing very well.

Kristin's parents (my favorite in-laws) came a week ago. They're only 5-10 minutes up the road and we've had a great time together with them. They've sure gotten a taste of Budapest in a short time. We are very thankful and grateful to have their support and help with this adoption.

Last Monday we took a boat tour on the Duna (Danube in English) River. What a beautiful city from the river we saw and the history we learned behind the city was amazing. We settled on Margaret Island we enjoyed the open grassy area and the kids played.

Cooking here has been a real challenge. We can't read what things are so we are hoping we buy the right thing and put in the right amount. Many things are not found here in the grocery stores that we take for granted in America. For example, for the first few weeks we thought we were buying ground beef when we were actually buying ground lamb. Of course, no one in the grocery store speaks English. All their spaghetti is made with egg noodles, you can't find any peanut butter here. This is a "green" country - no paper plates, cups, etc. here at all. One thing that is difficult to find here is Mexican food. Well, last week we found Iguana Mexican restaurant only two blocks from the US Embassy. AND it was GOOD!! The weather has continued to be great here- low to mid 70's just about every day.

It's interesting that when we first got here it was the off season and no one spoke English. Now that the weather is warmer and Spring is here, I'm noticing a few English speaking tourists. What little Hungarian I know, I learned from my family when I was little. But I noticed that some of the words I used back then with my family are different and not used today in Budapest. The language has certainly changed slightly over the last few decades.

Well, Thursday we will be arriving home in Indianapolis late afternoon.
God Bless and thank you for all your prayers and support. God is praised for this adoption as HE and HE ONLY made this possible. We look forward to serving HIM as a family of eight and how HE will use each one of us in the years to come.

In Christ, Tom

Friday, April 24, 2009

Pictures of the Nemeth's


Above - church in Kophaza - where my Nagypapa Presits is from and his family.

Above- The Presits family church in Sopron.

Church that my Dad was baptized in and Nemeth family church in Fertozseplak.





Above - In front of my Dad's home in Fertoszeplak.







Above- The bedroom of my Dad's home. He slept in the wooden piece that pulls out into a bed.




Gage standing next to my Dad's home and behind the well.





Gage and Alexa standing in front of Nagypapa Nemeth's workshop.




Inside Nagypapa Nemeth's workshop. Those are his original tools.








In Sopron, with my mother's and her family's Catholic church in the background. This is where she was baptized.






In Sopron at our favorite Ice Cream Parlor.




In Hotel Angela south of Debrecen. The first week we met the children.






At the Budapest Zoo on the Pest side. The two little girls in purple are our Adoption coordinator's girls.






At the Buda Castle in Budapest along the Duna River.







Above - In Budapest at Pizza Hut.












Thursday, April 23, 2009

Hi from Tom

Hi - Tom here,
I'm been blessed to meet family here in Hungary. A couple Sunday's ago we visited Andrea, her Dad, Estee, and her Husband - 3rd cousins on my Nagymama Presits side (Mom's side). We also met with my 3rd cousin on my Dad's side (Laci Ujvari) and his wife. They invited us to his Father house for Easter. We had a great time. This is my Grandfather's younger sister's son and grandson on my Dad's side.

Now to the kids. They are adorable!! Loving, Cute, Happy. All of them. They love to be tickled before bed. They love to kiss and hug and are very affectionate. What a blessing. They are adjusting well to the adoption. We are all coming together as one family. Praise God!! Laci has a great smile. A lot of energy, loves trucks and balls. He loves Gage and Cole and rough housing with them. He has to be cuttled and held before going to bed. If it not Monika or Kira Alexandra doing this, guess who is next! Kira is talkative and outgoing. She loves talking on the phone and helping in the kitchen. She is a handful, but very loving and caring. Monika is quiet and strong. She is a peace maker and comforter to her younger siblings. She is also very caring and loving. They all love to wrestle and play and be held.

That's all for now. Thank you so much for you prayers.
God Bless you all,
Tom

We just got back from Sopron!

Hi Everyone,
We are still here!!! We did not fall off the face of the earth. I know that a lot of you think we might have, but no we are working through some internet frustration. It comes and goes and to get someone out to even look at the situation has taken 5 weeks. Hungarian time is not the same as American time. We are learning that tomorrow maybe 4-5 weeks or so. I am getting a perfect opportunity to work on my patience. All fun aside I have been growing in understanding!!! We will be home in just 2 weeks, which is unbelievable to think how the time has gone. We went to Sopron last Friday and the train ride was beautiful. The city of Sopron is something out of a movie. It is so well looked after and historic. The people all speak Hungarian and German because the border of Austria is just a few minutes away. We went to the neighborhood where Tom's mom lived and her family lived. It was beautiful. We also saw the Catholic church they attended and Tom's mom was baptized in. We ate ice cream like it was coming out of our ears. Everyday we would go to the ice cream shop and get a scoop. It was amazing!!!!! One word of caution - if ever in Hungary at a Pizza place -don't order "pepperoni" because you'll get green peppers. They know what salami is though. The hotel we stayed in was beautiful and historic. The newest additions had never gone swimming before so that was very interesting at first. Monika still has the skin off my back under her finger nails!!!! OUCH!!!!! Once they got used to it they really got into it. I had to use my life saving (lifeguard) techniques a few times and save some cute little Hungarian's. They were not quite sure what to do with the goggles but they wanted them just the same. We visited many of Tom's relatives on all sides literally. Saturday we went to Fertoszeplak to see where Tom's Dad, aunts, and grandparents were born and to see the home his Dad lived in that has now been turned into a museum. The museum was closed even though it was supposed to be open. We had already paid the driver so we went to the Catholic church and took pictures. We saw a lot of Nemeths on a plaque from the first congregation and later found out that they were all related. WOW!!. We then met a kind old woman who lived next door to the museum and she knew Tom's name and that he was the son of Laszlo Nemeth. It was weird to be half way around the world and have never met these people and they knew things about Tom's family that I did not even know. She pointed to where some Nemeths lived and said they were all family, so go say hi and they will have the key to the museum. Sure enough they were right, Tom's Nagypapa's (dad side) oldest bother's son (Gyula Nemeth) and his sons live right there in that village. They all look like Tom!!!! We were welcomed into their homes and treated to pastries (and Coke) because after all Tom's family are the Bakers for the village and the surrounding villages!!! (The other son (Tom's 3rd cousin) is a wood maker.) Oh boy can they BAKE!!!!! We also had the opportunity to see the Bakery under the home of Tom's cousin. Well need less to say, we never got back to the museum that night because we had to hurry back to the Hotel to see Tom's cousins on his Mom's side (Presits) side who were coming in from Austria. We can not leave the country with our Newest additions. We had dinner with them (Eva and Heni) and did not get to bed until very late that night. The next day in the afternoon, we went to the museum and it was awesome to see Nagypapa Nemeth's tool shed and the actual tools he used. We also saw Tom's dad's (Laszlo) bed and the stove that Nagymama used to cook for her family. The people who run the museum for the tourist department of Hungary guided us through and let us take pictures and see, feel, examine all the things of Tom's family that was still there. It was something to see time stopped and preserved for the public to see and experience. There were four houses next to each other that were in the museum. One was set up in the 1850's (Tom's Grandfather's home), another 1900, 1930, and 1950. It was great to see how people lived back then. We left the museum with postcards, flowers, pamphlets, honey, baskets, and a written history about the Nemeth house. They treated us like royalty and were very kind. That morning before, we visited with one of Tom's other 3rd cousins - Martha (this one is his Dad's Mom's sisters's granddaughter. We also met her mother (Margaret) and he husband. Martha teaches English in a high school in Sopron. We enjoyed our time with her. She was extremely helpful in getting us a driver for all 8 of us out to Fertoszeplak. She also told us a little about the history of what happened to the family after Communism took hold in Hungary after World War II. The Russians were not supposed to stay in Hungary, Romania, ect. after the war but, they did. The world just looked the other way because we did not want a WWIII on our hands and the Russians were so so so powerful. Many families including Tom's were in direct opposition to Communism and all it stands for so they were targeted after the Revolution of 1956. Martha tells us of a time when the Communist soldiers came and took her father away for four months. The Communist tortured him and did terrible things to him that I can not even say because of all the kids reading this blog. The people here in Hungary have suffered for years in a state of FEAR!!!! They are only just now feeling like the nightmare is over. I have a hard time even understanding what that would be like to be told what to do, how to do it, and still knowing even if I did nothing wrong I still could be drug off and tortured or worse killed like so many I have personally heard about since coming to this country. I pray the Lord will protect the minds of these dear people and heal their memories of such a terrible time in Hungarian history where the rights of all Hungarians were taken away and could only be dreamed about. The six children and I went to Bascilla Castle, Heros Square, and a Roman Catholic Church that seats 8,000 people today (while Tom worked). Of course, it was very beautiful and the art work out of this world!!!! Monika, Kira Alexandra, and Drew Laci are really starting to fit in well with the routine of this family, which is no easy thing to do. If you know us we are pretty routine and Tom likes things a certain way. In all actuality I think it has helped the children to know what to expect and how things are done. Tom is not much for change so the toilet paper will always roll from the back down and the kids will always have milk for meal times even if they are in their thirties. I love that man so much it is no easy job to balance all that he is between work, foreign currency, language barriers, extended family arrangements, and did I mention the reason we are here adding THREE new members to our family (kind of like triplets). God Bless you all and keep up the prayers because we feel them!!!! Pray the credit cards hold out because we have maxed out one already!!!!!! I almost forgot to tell you all!!!!!!! last week right before we were to go to Sopron we were awarded a grant for $7,500 by the Gift of Adoption!!!!!! WoW!!!!!!! Praise the Lord!!!! When the Lord calls you to go you don't ask how???? He is faithful to finish the work in You that He has started. We are living on FAITH and the LOVE of our Father!!!! Oh and we also found out that if we did not come along to adopt all three children (siblings) they were set to be separated for a quick adoption!!!!!!!!!!! God is Good ALL!!

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Hello to the States!!!!

I have email! I thought this day would never come!!!!! Everyone said it was Hungarian red tape but, I did not believe them. Well now I am a believer! Things are never what it seems. Ok so I am back on the internet after three long weeks and do not know what to say. I don't know where to start. We have been in Budapest for about two and a half weeks. Wow !!!! OK. Between fixing meals, cleaning up, baths, and dealing with a lot of emotional children trying to adjust I do not have much time for anything else. I think I am learning more Hungarian then the kids are learning English. No I am just kidding but, really the children fit right in here with the Magyar people and there is very litttle English spoken here in Budapest. The people are very reserved to say the least. The culture is very different from the USA. People are very interested in us but, do not want us to talk to them. Grocery shopping can be a bit stressful with six children and no meat is labeled in English so we have had lamb, pork, liver ect.... thinking it was ground hamburger. Liver is big here!!!! The three youngest Nemeths have been raised on Liver and a whole lot of it. They love Liver!!!! The three oldest Nemeths are disguisted by the sight of it. So I have them literally gagging and Cole actually threw up his lunch watching the three younger ones eat liver patae or however you spell it.

The city is very interesting and we are getting quite good at mastering the metro system. The law here prohibats any building higher then 15 stories but, I have not even seen one more than 10 stories as of yet. We have gone to the Circus, Zoo, Parks, and many musuems. We went to the Buda Castle last weekend and saw a spectacular site from top the Buda Hills on to the city which is the Pest side.

We live in a two hundred year old apartment (flat). So that can be very interesting at times. Between water ice cold or burning hot or not at all, no electricity, I think I will never complain about my home again. The air is full of dirt and smog. People wear masks over their faces to protect their lungs from all the dust in the air. Communism has definetely taken its toll on these people. We went to our interpretors house on Sprinkling Monday which is an Hungarian Holiday. The men and boys will take colgne say a poem and spray the heads of all the women and girls in the house. I smelled like a cheap perfume store that night but, I was in good company because every other female did too. We have gotten close to our Andrea and her family through this whole thing and will continue a relationship. Pray for Andrea and her four girls they have suffered the lose of a wonderful husband and father through a bomb blast in Turkey. They hurt so deeply it is painful to all who care for this wonderful family.

On to the Nemeth news. We are doing well. The children are adjusting to eachother and we are bonding as a family quite remarkably. Gage and Cole have taken Drew over completely. The girls are very close to me and will fight for my attention. When Tom comes home from work he is about knocked off his feet by a stampede of Nemeths ready to greet him. We get all kinds of looks when we walk down the street because we all hold hands so its like a wall coming at you and poeple are not quite sure what to do. The children have poor hygiene which we are not surprised, the first night I gave them a bath they just screamed and screamed. When Tom went to help brush their teeth they did not know what to do. Monika and Kira have major decay. Monika has her permanent teeth so this will be a major undertaking. Pray for Monika she has had a very heard time in her short life and will need some abdomanal surgery as well as follow up with a cardiologist in the states. Monika is strong and very responsive to the entire family. She is very open when I show her affection and has had to be the Mommy way to long!!!! She has gladly is passed that job to me. Kira (Alexandra) is very loving and mommy's big helper. She loves to sweep, clean bathrooms, chop vegtables, and wash dishes. She has a very strong personality and emotionally takes over if I am not on it. She is very intelligent and is picking up English very quickly. Drew (Laszlo) is very much the all boy kind of kid. He only knows try and try until you hit a brick wall and then climb, climb climb. He is the snuggle bug and the baby of the family in everyway. Tom has taken an immediate liking to him and Tom usually can be seen with his lips wrapped around Drew. The five older Nemeths miss home desperately and can't wait to go home to the point of tears sometimes. (I just hold Tom until he stops crying even if it takes all night!!!! HAHAHA) We have not been gone from home for a month ever so it is very hard.

The three youngest Nemeths are amazed at everything from escalators, boats, elevators, dvds, cell phones, restaurants, and well just about anything that is modern. They can not help pushing buttons on everything from the refrigerator off button to the subway emergency door opener! OH ohyahhh!!! That was fun!!!! Washing machines absolutely undue them, they can not figure out how the box can clean clothes.

We have enjoyed seeing Tom's family I think the most of all. They are so excited to see all of us even the newest additions. They have alot of family stories and alot of missing pieces to the Nemeth/Presits history. These two families as well as all the Hungarian people are resiliant, strong, and most of all determined to never give up!!! in the face of all kinds of difficulties. I did not know that the biggest Jewish synaguage in Europe is right here in Budapest. 250,000 Jews were killed during World War 2 here in Hungary. Thousands were shot into the Duna River and as a Memorial they have bronzed hundreds of shoes right next to this terrible site all along the river. Well I don't want to end on that note so I will end on this one! I am missing you all terribly and my prayers are with you in the States as you pick out homeschooling materials, go to work, recovering from surgeries, ministering to others, and going about your lives as well. Jesus is Lord of ALL! He sees ALL!!! He LOVES ALL!!!! But!! MOST OF ALL HE IS RISEN FROM THE DEAD AND HE IS LORD!!!!!!!EVERY KNEEE SHALL BOW AND EVERY TONGUE CONFESS THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD!!!! Until we meet again, Kristin